I realised today that I am my greatest critic and I am a terrible self-sabotager.
I set goals that are realistically unattainable.
I make myself promises that I can't keep.
And when I cancel plans on myself, I tell myself that I didn't want them and I'm really not worthy of attaining them anyway.
"I don't have time for you," I say. "There are more important things to be done." "You're just not worthy of my limited time and you're too much of an effort!"
Can you imagine how a friend would feel if you said that to them after cancelling a dinner date? Why, then, is it acceptable to say it to ourselves?
I started a self improvement journey a little over 18 months ago now. And I'm having to face some cold, hard facts about myself. Things that I REALLY don't like. Things that make me feel horribly uncomfortable. But I'm voluntarily subjecting myself to it, because I know that until I break these walls down, I will never be the writer or the success that I want to be.
So, I'm going to be honest with you. When, on the 23rd of June, I said to myself "I am going to finish my first novel in 90 days!!!" - I think I set the bar too high. I think I knew I couldn't realistically do it amid all of my other commitments. I think I set out to fail.
With 3 weeks to go, I can tell you that I am failing. Reformatting 8 chapters into 4, writing some plot notes and maybe five new sentences of the story is a FAR cry from what I set out to do; and being a bit of a perfectionist, to admit to any kind of REAL failure in public is pretty hard for me.
Instinct tells me to run around, flailing my arms in the air, screaming "The sky is falling! The sky is falling!"; instead, I've decided to fail forward.
I, Erin Le Clerc of Mirkwood Cottage, hereby decree:
By the 23rd of September 2008, I agree to complete a very detailed plan of a new novel idea, including characters and all main events from Chapter One through to 'The End'. And I think this is risky. Not risky in the sense that it's too big to manage. More 'I can do this, but it's going to take real courage, real dedication and real change'. And a lot more than five measly sentences.
But I need help. I cannot do this alone. And I'm asking for you to be with me on this one. I need your harrassment. Your encouragement. Even a nod of support would do. And I need this for the next three weeks.
I also need you to know that this is about more than a book outline.
This is about keeping an agreement with myself. About not letting myself down. About saying that I am worthy of my dreams.
If I can do this one thing, I can do anything. And so can you.